Gift 20th Birthday

My dear son, these gifts I give,

Confidence, courage, and creativity live,

Patience and self-love, virtues true,

Embrace them all, and success will ensue.

My dearest son,

As your mother, I want to see you grow into a confident, creative, and self-assured man. There are so many gifts I could give you. Still, the ones that truly matter are the ones that will help you navigate through life's ups and downs and ultimately lead you to a fulfilling and happy life.

First and foremost, I want to instil in you the gift of self-confidence. I want you to know that you can achieve anything you want. With hard work and dedication, you can accomplish your dreams and make them a reality. So believe in yourself, my son, and never let anyone tell you you can't do something.

Another gift I want to bestow upon you is the gift of creativity. I want you to always think outside the box and come up with unique solutions to life's challenges. Use your imagination and unlock new possibilities you may have never considered. So embrace your creativity, my son, and let it guide you to new and exciting paths.

Self-acceptance is also a crucial gift that I want to give you. I want you to make peace with your identity and celebrate your individuality. Don't compare yourself to others or feel you must fit a specific mould. Instead, embrace your quirks and differences, my son, and know they make you truly special.

Courage is another gift I want to impart to you. I want you to have the strength to face your fears and take risks, even when it's scary. Don't let fear keep you from pursuing your passions and living life to the fullest. Take chances and be brave, my son, and you will reap the rewards.

Patience is also an important virtue that I want you to possess. Good things take time to come to fruition, and I want you to understand that things may not always happen as quickly as you'd like. So be patient and trust in the process, my son, and you will see that things will fall into place in due time.

Finally, I want to give you the gift of self-love. You must love and accept yourself for who you are. Celebrate your strengths, acknowledge your weaknesses, and always treat yourself with kindness and compassion.

These gifts I want to impart upon you, my son, will help you lead a fulfilling and happy life. Always remember that I love you and support you in your endeavours.

With love, Mom

Navigating Life's Journey: Embracing Change and Moving Forward

  Life is a remarkable voyage, filled with twists and turns, challenges, and moments of triumph. Navigating this journey can be both exhilarating and daunting as we encounter uncertainties and unexpected detours. This blog post delves into the art of navigating life and embracing change while embracing the essence of moving forward. So let's embark on this transformative exploration together.

Embracing Change: Change is an inevitable part of life, and learning to embrace it is essential for personal growth. Rather than fearing change, we should recognize it as an opportunity for new beginnings. Embracing change allows us to adapt, evolve, and discover our potential. By adopting a flexible mindset and viewing change as a catalyst for self-improvement, we open doors to endless possibilities.

Setting Goals and Direction: Moving forward requires setting clear goals and defining our desired direction. Setting goals helps us create a roadmap, enabling us to focus our energies and make deliberate choices. We gain a sense of purpose and motivation by identifying what truly matters to us and aligning our actions with our aspirations. In addition, goals provide a sense of direction, guiding us through the vast ocean of possibilities.

Embracing Resilience: Life's journey is often peppered with obstacles and setbacks. Cultivating resilience is crucial to navigate through these challenges and continue moving forward. Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity, learn from failures, and persevere with unwavering determination. It involves developing coping mechanisms, seeking support from loved ones, and maintaining a positive mindset. Embracing resilience allows us to weather storms and emerge more robust than ever.

Embracing Learning and Growth: Moving forward requires a continuous commitment to learning and personal growth. Life presents us with valuable lessons at every turn, and we must embrace them. In addition, every experience, whether positive or negative, carries an opportunity for growth and self-reflection. By approaching life with a curious and open mind, we broaden our horizons, expand our knowledge, and nurture our personal development.

Cultivating Gratitude and Mindfulness: In the fast-paced nature of modern life, it is essential to cultivate gratitude and mindfulness. Gratitude reminds us to appreciate the present moment, acknowledging the blessings and beauty surrounding us. Mindfulness helps us stay grounded and fully engaged in the present, allowing us to make conscious choices and savour each step of our journey. We find contentment and joy in life's simple pleasures by cultivating gratitude and mindfulness.

 

As we navigate life, embracing change and moving forward become essential skills. By embracing change, setting goals, cultivating resilience, embracing learning and growth, and cultivating gratitude and mindfulness, we empower ourselves to chart a fulfilling and purposeful path. Remember, life's journey is not about reaching a final destination but about embracing the voyage and finding fulfilment in the continual process of growth and self-discovery. So, set your sails, trust your abilities, and move forward with confidence and courage. The possibilities are boundless, and your journey awaits.

Remembering My Beloved Father: Marking 18 Years Since His Departure

    Today, I find myself standing at a crossroads of emotions as I commemorate the 17th anniversary of my father's passing. It feels like yesterday when we bid him farewell, yet the years have swiftly passed, leaving behind cherished memories and a deep void in my heart. In this blog post, I want to take a moment to reflect on the life and legacy of my dear father, to honour his memory and the profound impact he had on my life.

My father was more than just a parent; he was my guiding light, source of strength. His unconditional love, unwavering support, and presence warmed every room. He taught me the importance of kindness, integrity, and perseverance, instilling values that continue to shape my character today. Through his love and guidance, I have grown into the person I am now.

As I reminisce about our countless memories, I am flooded with emotions. From the carefree days of my childhood to the transformative moments of my adolescence, my father was always there, cheering me on and offering invaluable advice. I remember his infectious laughter, comforting embrace, and the sparkle in his eyes whenever he saw me achieve a milestone. These memories serve as a bittersweet reminder of our connection's depth and his profound impact on my life's trajectory.

One of the greatest gifts my father bestowed upon me was his wisdom. He had a way of imparting invaluable life lessons with grace and humility. His words of encouragement still echo in my mind, inspiring me to face challenges head-on and never lose sight of my dreams. Even in his absence, his teachings continue to guide me, reminding me of the strength and resilience I inherited from him.

Eighteen years may have passed since my father's departure, but his legacy lives on. His impact extends far beyond our immediate family, touching the lives of all those who had the privilege of knowing him. The love, kindness, and compassion he radiated continue to inspire others, and his memory remains etched in the hearts of those who were fortunate enough to cross his path. As I share stories about him with my children, I am reminded of the importance of passing down his legacy, ensuring that his spirit endures through the generations.

On this solemn anniversary, I find solace in the act of reflection. I am grateful for my time with my father, the lessons he taught me, and the love he showered. While the pain of his absence still lingers, I focus on the joy he brought into my life and the beautiful memories we created together. This day serves as a poignant reminder to cherish our precious moments with our loved ones and honour their memory by living purposefully and authentically.

Grief is a journey unique to each individual, and over the years, I have discovered ways to cope with the loss of my father. It's essential to allow yourself to grieve, to feel the emotions that arise, and to seek support from loved ones or professionals if needed. Surrounding myself with family and friends who understood my grief and shared memories of my father has been a tremendous source of comfort. In addition, engaging in activities that bring me joy and channelling my emotions into creative outlets has helped me navigate the healing process.

As I mark my 18th year since my father's passing, I am filled with mixed emotions; Sadness for the loss, gratitude for our love, and a deep longing to be in his presence again. While time may soften the pain, the memory of my father remains vivid and cherished. My father his influence will forever be a part of me. So today, I choose to celebrate his life, honour his legacy, and carry forward the lessons he imparted.

Surviving grief is a profoundly personal journey, and there is no right or wrong way to navigate it. However, I have found some strategies that have helped me. First and foremost, being patient and kind to yourself is essential. Grief is not something that can be neatly resolved or rushed. It is a process that unfolds in its own time, and allowing yourself the space to feel and heal is crucial.

Finding a support system is vital during times of grief. Surrounding yourself with understanding and compassionate individuals can provide comfort and solace. Whether it's family, close friends, or support groups, having people there to listen and share memories can be immensely healing.

Engaging in self-care practices is also essential. Taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being can help you navigate the waves of grief. It involves finding activities that bring you joy, such as hobbies, exercise, or leisure time in nature. Additionally, practising mindfulness and self-reflection can aid in processing emotions and finding inner peace.

Preserving your loved one's memory is a powerful way to honour their legacy.

For me, sharing stories, looking at old photographs, or participating in activities my father enjoyed helps keep his spirit alive. In addition, creating rituals or dedicating special moments to commemorate them can provide a sense of connection and ensure their memory endures.

Lastly, it is essential to remember that grief has no expiration date. Even years after losing a loved one, certain days or anniversaries can bring intense emotions. It is okay to experience moments of sadness or longing. However, embracing these feelings and finding healthy coping methods can contribute to healing and growth.

As I reflect on the 17th anniversary of my father's passing, I am reminded of the love, strength, and resilience that he embodied. Though the pain of his absence will always linger, his memory continues to inspire and guide me. I am grateful for the time we shared, the lessons he taught me, and his profound impact on my life. Today, I choose to honour his memory by living a life that reflects the love and values he instilled in me.

Rest in peace, dear father. You are forever loved and deeply missed.

A Life Unseen, Yet Forever Felt: Remembering My Brother's Meaningful Journey

Dear Diary,

Today, I reflect on a person I never had the chance to meet fully, my brother. He lived a short but meaningful life, leaving a lasting impact on our family and those who had the privilege of knowing him. While he may be physically absent from my life, his spirit and the stories surrounding him have been woven into our family's narrative.

I heard countless tales about my brother—his infectious laughter, mischievous adventures, and unwavering kindness. Our shared memories have painted a vivid picture of a person with a zest for life, a compassionate heart, and an indomitable spirit.

I understood that he had an innate ability to bring joy to those around him. He had a way of lighting up a room, spreading laughter, and finding beauty in the simplest moments. So, even though I was not fortunate enough to experience his presence firsthand, I am grateful for the opportunity to glimpse into his life through the memories of those who held him dear.

As I reflect on his life, I am reminded of the fragility and preciousness of our existence. His untimely departure is a stark reminder that life's moments should never be taken for granted. The brevity of his journey serves as a catalyst for me to live each day with purpose and gratitude, cherishing my connections with those around me.

Though my heart aches for the moments, I will never share with my brother. Instead, I am comforted by the thought that he continues to live on in the hearts of our family. His impact in his short time with us is a testament to the depth of his character and the love he shared. His presence, albeit ethereal, continues to guide us, reminding us to embrace life, embrace one another, and find beauty in even the most challenging circumstances.

In moments of introspection, I often wonder what our relationship might have been like if fate had allowed us to cross paths. Would we have been confidants, partners in mischief, or sources of unwavering support for each other? While these questions remain unanswered, I focus on my gratitude for being part of a family that values and honours his memory.

The impact of my brother's life extends far beyond our immediate family. His essence reaches others through our stories, reminding them of the power of love, resilience, and compassion. His legacy serves as a reminder that no matter how short our time on this Earth may be, we can touch lives and leave an indelible mark on the world.

Today, I dedicate this diary entry to my brother—the person I never fully met. I honour his memory by living a life that reflects the values he embodied and by carrying forward his spirit of joy, kindness, and resilience. Though our paths never crossed, he remains forever in my heart, a guiding light that reminds me of the beauty and fragility of life.

Rest in peace, dear brother. Your memory lives on, and your impact continues to inspire us all.

With love,

Navigating Grief, Depression, and Anxiety—A Personal Reflection

  Dear Diary,

Today, I find myself delving into the depths of my emotions as I reflect on the challenges of dealing with grief, depression, and anxiety. These complex experiences have woven themselves into the fabric of my life, leaving me with a profound understanding of the ups and downs that come with them. Through this diary entry, I aim to capture the personal reflections and lessons I've learned on this ongoing journey.

Grief has been a constant companion, whispering its presence even in moments of joy. The loss of loved ones and the subsequent waves of sorrow has left deep imprints on my heart. I've come to understand that grief is not something to be conquered or pushed away. Instead, it is a natural response to loss, a testament to our love for those who have left this earthly realm. In embracing my grief, I've found solace in honouring their memories, cherishing the lessons they taught me, and holding onto the precious moments we shared. Grief has taught me that healing is a process that unfolds at its own pace, and it is through patience and self-compassion that I can navigate its intricate labyrinth.

Depression has cast shadows on my path, obscuring the light of hope and dimming the colours of life. It was during those moments when I felt the weight of sadness, hopelessness, and disinterest that I realized the importance of seeking support. Opening up to trusted confidants and seeking professional help has been a lifeline in my journey. Through therapy, I've gained insights into my thoughts and emotions, learning coping strategies to navigate the depths of depression. It is an ongoing battle, but with each step forward, I discover resilience and strength I never knew I possessed.

Anxiety has woven its tendrils into my existence, whispering fears and doubts in the quiet corners of my mind. The constant worry, the racing heartbeat, and the gripping sense of unease have, at times, threatened to overpower me. Yet, I have learned that anxiety does not define me. Instead, I have cultivated a greater awareness of the present moment through mindfulness practices, grounding myself in the here and now. Breathing deeply, acknowledging my fears, and challenging negative thoughts have become tools to tame the anxious whispers and find moments of calm amidst the chaos.

In this personal reflection, I understand that navigating grief, depression, and anxiety is as unique as each individual's fingerprint. It is not a linear path but a winding, ever-changing road. It requires courage to face the depths of these emotions, vulnerability to seek support, and the willingness to show compassion to oneself.

Today, as I write these words, I am reminded of the strength I have gained through these experiences. The journey has been arduous, but it has also been transformative. My grief, my depression, or my anxiety do not define me. They are a part of me but do not dictate my entire story. I am a survivor, a fighter, and a witness to my resilience.

With each passing day, I strive to cultivate self-care practices, surround myself with understanding and compassionate souls, and embrace the moments of joy that dance amidst struggles. Through this delicate balance, I continue to find healing, growth, and the beauty of being alive.

Dear Diary, I entrust these reflections to your pages, knowing that they serve as a reminder of my journey and a testament to the strength within me. May my words resonate with others walking a similar path, reminding them they are not alone and that healing is possible.

With love and gratitude,

Unlocking Your Potential

The Power of Visualization for Personal Growth

Reflecting on my personal growth journey, I realise how powerful visualisation has shaped my life. When I first started practising visualisation, I was sceptical about its effectiveness. However, as I continued to visualise my goals and desires, I noticed a shift in my mindset and actions.

I gained clarity on what I truly wanted in my life through visualisation. I could identify my values, passions, and strengths and align them with my goals. The visualisation also helped me overcome limiting beliefs and negative self-talk holding me back.

In addition to visualisation, I incorporated other techniques, such as affirmations and gratitude, into my daily routine. These practices helped me stay focused, motivated, and positive, even in challenging times.

Looking back on my journey, I am amazed at how far I have come. I have achieved many goals, including starting my own business, travelling to new places, and building solid relationships. However, the most significant change has been the transformation within myself. As a result, I am more confident, resilient, and fulfilled than ever before.

Visualisation is a powerful tool anyone can use to create their desired life. It requires commitment, consistency, and patience, but the results are worth it. Visualisation has helped me realise my full potential and live authentically and meaningfully.

• If you want to incorporate visualisation into your personal growth journey, here are some tips to get started:
• First, find a quiet, comfortable space where you won't be disturbed. This could be a quiet room in your house, a park, or any place you feel relaxed.
• Set an intention for your visualisation practice. This could be a specific goal you want to achieve, a change you want to make, or simply a desire to connect with your inner self.
• Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths to calm your mind and body. Then, focus on your breath and release any tension or stress you may be holding.
• Visualise your desired outcome. Imagine yourself in the scenario you want to create, and make the image as vivid and natural as possible. Include all the details, such as your surroundings, actions, and emotions.
• Focus on the positive emotions that come with this scenario. Allow yourself to feel the joy, excitement, and fulfilment of living this experience.
• Repeat this exercise regularly, ideally daily, to reinforce positive thinking patterns and manifest your desires.

Remember that visualisation is a personal practice, and there is no right or wrong way to do it. The key is to find what works best for you and incorporate it into your daily routine. You may also want to experiment with different techniques, such as visualisation boards or guided meditations, to enhance your practice.

Visualisation is a powerful tool to help you create your desired life. By tapping into your inner resources and unleashing your full potential, you can achieve your goals and live a fulfilling life. So, start practising visualisation today and see the positive changes it brings to your life.

Small Steps to Organize Your Space and Mind

Organizing your space and mind can be daunting, but it doesn't have to be. By implementing these small steps consistently, you can create a more organized and clutter-free environment that will help you stay focused and productive. 

• Start Your Day by Making Your Bed Making your bed first thing in the morning can give you a sense of accomplishment and motivate you to tackle the rest of your day.
• Put Away Your Coats and Shoes Keep your entryway clutter-free by putting away your outerwear in its designated spots.
• Recycle Junk Mail Prevent unwanted clutter from entering your home by recycling junk mail before it piles up.
• Put Clean Dishes Away Avoid having dirty dishes pile up by putting them away immediately after washing.
• Keep Clothes Off the Floor and Furniture. Maintain a tidy bedroom by putting dirty clothes in the laundry and clean clothes in their designated drawers or closet.
• Use a Drop-Zone for Your Keys and Change Keep track of your keys and change by consistently using a designated drop-zone.
• Keep Bathroom Toiletries Off the Counter Maximize counter space and create a cleaner bathroom environment by keeping toiletries organized and stored away.
• Put Office/School Items Away Minimize visual clutter and improve focus by putting away office or school items in their designated spots.
• Empty Your Car When You Arrive Home Avoid a cluttered car by removing any items brought in at the end of each day.
• Wash Snack Dishes Immediately Avoid having dirty dishes pile up by washing snack dishes immediately after use.
• Store Kitchen Appliances Out of Sight. Free up counter space by storing appliances like toasters and blenders in cabinets or on shelves.
• Clean Up Toys and Gadgets After Use Teach children (and yourself) the importance of tidiness by cleaning up toys and gadgets after use.
• Flatten and Store Cardboard Boxes Save space and reduce clutter by flattening and storing cardboard boxes.
• Put Away Remote Controls Prevent remote controls from cluttering up living spaces by putting them back where they belong after use.
• Return Chargers and Cords to Drawers Prevent cords and chargers from cluttering shared spaces by storing them in designated drawers.
• Fold Blankets After Use Create a tidier living space by folding blankets after use instead of leaving them wadded up on the couch.
• Empty Full Trash Cans and Bins Avoid overflowing trash immediately by emptying full cans and bins.
• Store Reading Materials in Designated Spots Reduce visual clutter by storing reading materials like magazines and books in designated spots.
• Throw Out Expired Leftovers and Food Keep your fridge and pantry clutter-free by disposing of expired or spoiled food.
• Put Away Tools Avoid cluttered workspaces by putting tools away after use.
• File Papers Prevent paper clutter by filing papers in their designated spots.

By incorporating these small steps into your daily routine, you can create a more organized and productive environment that will help you stay focused and motivated.

Bored with TV Shows? Here are 10 Fun Hobbies to Try

Do you feel bored with your usual routine of watching TV shows? Then, it's time to break the monotony and try exciting hobbies that keep you entertained and help you become more productive. Whether you are looking for a solo escape or want to bond with friends, there is a hobby for everyone to try. Journaling: Writing in a journal is an excellent way to reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. You can choose from various journaling techniques, such as bullet journaling, gratitude journaling, or free writing, to find what works best for you.

• Calligraphy: If you're a handwriting and lettering fan, calligraphy might be your hobby. With many online resources, you can quickly learn how to create beautiful lettering to elevate your note-taking and writing game.
• Gardening: Connect with nature and start a garden, no matter how small or big your space is. Whether you want to grow herbs, flowers, or vegetables, gardening is a relaxing and rewarding hobby that provides fresh produce and beautiful outdoor space.
• Cooking, Baking, and Pickling: Get creative in the kitchen and experiment with new recipes. There is always something new to try, from baking cakes to pickling vegetables. In addition, cooking can be a fun social activity to enjoy with friends or family.
• Candle Making: Unleash your creativity and create candles with different scents and designs. Candle-making is a fun and therapeutic hobby that can add a personal touch to your home decor.
• Crocheting: Learn how to crochet and create anything from scarves to blankets to amigurumi. There are many patterns and tutorials available online, making it easy to get started on this relaxing and rewarding hobby.
• Painting: Discover your inner artist and express yourself through painting. Painting is a great way to unwind and create something beautiful to display in your home, whether using acrylics, watercolours, or oils.
• Punch Needling and Embroidery: Get creative with fabric and thread by learning to punch a needle or embroider. These hobbies can create various items, from clothing to home decor.
• Makeup Artistry: If you enjoy experimenting with different makeup looks, why not try becoming your makeup artist? Learn new techniques and practice different looks to find the best for you.
• Photography: Capture the beauty of the world around you with photography. Whether using a professional camera or just your smartphone, photography is a fun and rewarding hobby that allows you to express your creativity.

 There are many hobbies to choose from that can keep you entertained and productive, even if you're bored with TV shows. So, why not try something new and see where it takes you? Happy hobby hunting!

Reconnect with Yourself

Rediscovering Your True Identity and Living a Fulfilling Life

Do you ever feel like you've lost your sense of self? Perhaps you've been so focused on caring for others that you've forgotten what makes you happy, or maybe you've been living in a role that doesn't align with your true identity. Whatever the reason, feeling disconnected from yourself can be a frustrating and overwhelming experience.

As a holistic coach, I work with women struggling to reconnect with themselves and rediscover their true identities. In this blog post, I'll share some ideas, examples, and tips to help you do the same.

•  Practice self-reflection One of the first steps to reconnecting with yourself is to take some time for self-reflection. This can involve asking yourself questions like "What do I value?" or "What are my strengths?" Also, journaling is a way to explore your thoughts and emotions.
• Identify your passions. Think about the things that bring you joy and excitement. It could be painting, hiking, or cooking. Whatever it is, make time for those activities and prioritise them in your life.
• Set boundaries. Learning to say "no" to things that don't align with your values or bring you happiness is essential to reconnecting with yourself. Setting boundaries can be complex, but it's essential for creating a life that aligns with your true identity.
• Embrace your authentic self. Sometimes we wear masks or hide our true selves to fit in or please others. However, embracing your authentic self can lead to greater happiness and fulfilment. It's okay to be different and unique, and in fact, that's what makes us all interesting.
• Seek support. Reconnecting with yourself can be challenging, and support is essential along the way. This can come in the form of a coach, therapist, or supportive friends and family members.

For example, one of my clients, Sarah, had spent years working in a corporate job that didn't align with her true passions or values. As a result, she felt like she had lost touch with herself and struggled to find meaning in her life. Through my coaching sessions, Sarah ( not her real name ) was able to identify her passions and strengths. As a result, she ultimately decided to leave her job and start her own business. As a result, she now feels a greater sense of purpose and fulfilment in her life.

Another example is Mia, who was so focused on caring for her family and others that she had forgotten what made her happy. Through journaling and self-reflection, Mia (not her real name ) could identify and prioritise her passions. As a result, she now makes time for painting and other creative hobbies, which has brought her a renewed sense of joy.

 Reconnecting with yourself and rediscovering your true identity can be a transformative experience. By practising self-reflection, identifying your passions, setting boundaries, embracing your authentic self, and seeking support, you can create a life that aligns with your values and brings you happiness and fulfilment. If you're ready to take the first step towards this journey, reach out to me and let's start this process of self-discovery together!

The Interconnectedness of Love and Grief

A Personal Reflection on Taking Responsibility for Your Life

Reflecting on my life, I realize that love and grief are intertwined. You can't have one without the other. The pain of losing someone you love is a testament to the depth of your love. It's a reminder of the bond that you had and the impact that they had on your life. But, unfortunately, avoiding grief means avoiding love altogether, and that's not a life that most of us want to lead.

The patterns and experiences of our past can have a profound impact on our present and future. For example, our upbringing and environment shape our beliefs, emotions, and behaviours. Sometimes, we carry these patterns without even realizing it, and they can hold us back from living our best lives.

It's important to acknowledge the discomfort that we feel and explore the source of it. If we are missing something in our lives or need something we didn't receive, we must take responsibility and make a change. Of course, we can't expect others to understand our unique experiences and perspectives, but we can take the time to understand ourselves.

For me, this meant confronting the negative patterns that I learned from my family and upbringing. I had to identify the conditioning and trauma holding me back and actively work to break those patterns. It wasn't easy, but I needed to move forward and create the life I wanted.

If you're feeling stuck or discontent in your life, take the time to explore it. First, be honest with yourself and identify the source of your discomfort. Then, take action to make a change. It's your life, and you have the power to create the future that you want.

So, embrace love and grief as a package deal, and use them as a reminder of the depth of the relationships in your life. Then, take responsibility for your journey and create the life you truly deserve.

A Guide to Death Cleaning, Choosing Minimalism, and Decluttering Your Life

Death Cleaning: A Path to Introspection and Self-Reflection

Death is often considered taboo, something we don't like to think about or discuss. However, the process of death cleaning - decluttering and organising one's possessions to make it easier for loved ones to deal with after one's passing - can catalyse a deeper level of self-reflection and introspection. 

As I have begun the process of death cleaning myself, I have found that it has forced me to confront my own mortality and consider the legacy I want to leave behind. Here are some of the insights I have gained through this process:

• Prioritising what matters One of the most significant benefits of death cleaning is that it helps you prioritise what truly matters in your life. As you sort through your possessions, ask yourself, "Does this item bring me joy or serve a purpose?" If the answer is no, it may be time to let it go. This process can extend beyond physical possessions to all areas of your life. By focusing on what truly brings you joy and fulfilment, you can make more intentional choices about spending your time and energy.
• Recognising the value of experiences As I have sorted through my possessions, I have realised that the memories of experiences with loved ones are far more valuable than any material possession. As a result, I have consciously created meaningful experiences and built lasting memories with those I care about. By prioritising experiences over possessions, I can connect with others on a deeper level and create more meaningful relationships.

Preparing for the future Death Cleaning has made me more aware of the need to plan for the future, both in terms of my own end-of-life planning and preparing my loved ones for my passing. By taking steps to prepare, I can ease the burden on my loved ones during a difficult time.

• This can include creating a will, discussing end-of-life wishes with family members, and making financial arrangements to ensure your loved ones are cared for after you are gone.

• Gratitude for the present Reflecting on death has also made me more aware of the preciousness of life and the importance of gratitude for the present moment. I can find joy and mean daily by focusing on the present and practising gratitude.

• This can include taking time to appreciate the small things in life, such as a beautiful sunset or a good cup of coffee, and expressing gratitude for the people in my life who bring me happiness and support.

 Death cleaning may seem like a daunting and unpleasant task. Still, it can be a powerful tool for self-reflection and introspection. We can live a more meaningful and fulfilling life by prioritising what truly matters, recognising the value of experiences, preparing for the future, and practising gratitude for the present. Death cleaning, decluttering and organising one's possessions can lead to deeper self-reflection and introspection. It allows us to confront our own mortality and prioritise what truly matters in our lives. Through this process, we can learn to recognise the value of experiences over material possessions, prepare for the future, and express gratitude for the present moment. 

Additionally, death cleaning can be a path towards living a minimalist lifestyle. By letting go of possessions that no longer serve a purpose, we can simplify our lives and focus on the things that bring us joy and fulfilment. Living with less can help us reduce stress and increase our overall well-being.

Through my experience with death cleaning, I have learned that living a minimalist lifestyle is not about depriving oneself of possessions. Instead, it's about letting go of the excess and focusing on what is truly important. It's about creating space in our lives for the things that matter most - our relationships, experiences, and personal growth.

Living a minimalist lifestyle has taught me to be intentional with my choices and to value quality over quantity. It has allowed me to appreciate what I have rather than constantly striving for more. I have found greater clarity, peace, and contentment by living with less.

 Death cleaning is not just a practical process of preparing for the end of life. Instead, it can be a powerful tool for personal growth and a more intentional, minimalist lifestyle. By letting go of the excess and focusing on what truly matters, we can simplify our lives and find greater meaning and purpose.

Here are some additional tips for those interested in pursuing a minimalist lifestyle:

• Start small - It can be overwhelming to declutter an entire house simultaneously. Instead, start with one room or even one category of possessions, such as clothing or books. This will allow you to ease into the process and build momentum.
• Keep what brings you joy - When deciding what to keep and what to let go of, focus on what brings you joy and serves a purpose in your life. If an item doesn't bring you happiness or serve a practical function, consider letting it go.
• Consider the environmental impact - Minimalism is about simplifying our lives and reducing our environmental impact. For example, consider donating or selling items in good condition rather than throwing them away.
• Invest in quality over quantity - Instead of buying cheap, low-quality items that will quickly wear out and need to be replaced, invest in high-quality items that will last longer and serve you better in the long run.
• Embrace experiences over material possessions - Instead of accumulating more possessions, focus on building meaningful experiences with loved ones. Whether taking a trip together or simply spending quality time together, these experiences will bring more lasting happiness than any material possession ever could.

By embracing minimalism, we can simplify our lives, reduce our impact on the environment, and focus on what truly brings us joy and fulfilment. It's a process that requires intentionality and mindfulness, but the rewards are well worth it.

Sorting through the possessions of a loved one who has passed away can be complex and emotional. Here are some tips to help you through the process:

• Give yourself time - Sorting through a loved one's possessions can be emotionally and physically overwhelming. Don't rush the process; give yourself time to go through everything.
• Start with the easy stuff - Begin with items that are easier to sort, such as clothing or books. This will help you build momentum and feel accomplished as you progress.
• Involve family and friends - Enlist the help of family and friends to sort possessions together. This can provide emotional support and help you decide what to keep and let go of.
• Consider the wishes of your loved one - If your loved one left behind specific instructions or requests for their possessions, honour their wishes as much as possible.
• Keep sentimental items - It's essential to keep items that hold sentimental value, even if they don't serve a practical purpose. These items can provide comfort and serve as a connection to your loved one.
• Donate or sell items - Consider donating or selling items still in good condition. This can provide a sense of closure and ensure the possessions are used well.
• Take breaks when needed - Sorting through possessions can be emotionally taxing. Take breaks when needed to rest, reflect, and recharge.

Remember that everyone grieves differently, and there is no right or wrong way to go through sorting through a loved one's possessions. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to feel a range of emotions as you work through the process.

Tips for Death Cleaning: 

• Prioritise what matters
• Recognise the value of experiences
• Prepare for the future
• Practice gratitude for the present
• Give yourself time to process emotions

Tips for Choosing Minimalism:

• Start small
• Keep what brings you joy
• Consider the environmental impact
• Invest in quality over quantity
• Embrace experiences over material possessions

Tips for Decluttering:

• Donate or sell items in good condition
• Let go of items that no longer serve a purpose
• Sort through possessions with family and friends
• Take breaks when needed
• Keep sentimental items

By following these tips, you can simplify your life, reduce your impact on the environment, and focus on what truly brings you joy and fulfilment. Remember that these processes take time and require intentionality, but the rewards are well worth it.

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Taking Action to Overcome Worry: A Lesson from My Friend's Cat

We all have big or small worries; sometimes, it can be hard to shake them off. For example, one of my friends recently came to me concerned about her cat, which had been showing some mild symptoms of illness. Although the symptoms were subtle and not severe enough to warrant a trip to the vet, she couldn't help but worry.

As I listened, I realized her worry was her lack of action. She felt there was nothing she could do, so she was trapped in a cycle of worry. But I knew that this wasn't the case. So I urged her to act, even if it was just calling the vet to ask for their advice.

To my friend's surprise, the vet was able to make a good assessment of what was wrong with her cat over the phone. He recommended that she bring the cat in, and if it was what he thought it was, he could give her something to clear it up right away. This small action on my friend's part not only helped her cat but also chased away her fear and worry.

This experience taught me an important lesson: fear and action cannot coexist. When there's action, there's no fear; when there's fear, there's no action. So, the next time you worry about something, remember to take action, no matter how small. It is the thing you need to chase away your fears and worries.

Here are some tips to help you manage your worries and take action:

• Identify the source of your worry: Understand what is causing it and try to put it into perspective.
• Break it into manageable chunks: Instead of focusing on the big picture, break your worry into smaller, manageable tasks. 
• Take action: Take small, concrete steps to address your worry. 
• Practice mindfulness: Focus on the present moment and let go of negative thoughts.
• Seek support: Talk to a friend or family member, or seek professional help if your worries interfere with your daily life.

Remember, taking action is key to overcoming worry. Don't let fear hold you back from doing something about it. With the right approach, you can turn your worries into something manageable.

12 Unique Life Resolutions/Habits to Improve Your Life Today

 As we go through life, it's easy to fall into certain habits and routines that can hold us back from reaching our full potential. Of course, we all know that we should exercise more, eat healthier, and manage our finances better, but there are other habits that we can cultivate that can be just as valuable.

Here are 12 unique life resolutions/habits that can help you improve your life today:

1. Intentionally laugh every day - Laughter has been proven to reduce stress, lower blood pressure, and exercise muscles. But, more importantly, it can change your outlook on life and bring you joy and hope. So make it a point to practice laughter daily, especially on tough days.
2. Practice solitude - Find time to be alone in quiet regularly. No books, no music, no outside voices. Just you alone with yourself. This habit can help you discover things about yourself you never knew and give you a better understanding of who you are.
3. Make gratitude a discipline - Express gratitude to someone or something each day. Gratitude refocuses our attention away from what we don't have and redirects it towards what we do. As a result, it naturally causes contentment and generosity to spring up in our lives.
4. Slow down - Take the time to slow down, whether while driving or in your daily activities. Life is not a race; by slowing oy the journey and being more present.
5. Fast one by slowing down day each month - Fasting has been practised in nearly every religious tradition, teaching us self-control, self-denial, and sacrifice. It can also heighten our senses and give us a better appreciation for the things we have.
6. Adopt a "Do it Now" mentality - Procrastination can result in unnecessary stress in our lives, so try to cultivate a habit of doing things right away instead of putting them off.
7. Eat more vegetables - Eating more vegetables is a simple and measurable approach to achieving weight loss goals. Additionally, it gives us more energy, more self-esteem, and more opportunity to fight off illness and disease.
8. Read classical books from different centuries - Books that have lasted centuries contain timeless human truths that can still apply today. Rediscovering how men and women approached life hundreds of years ago can give us a new perspective and help us grow.
9. Remove pornography - Pornography can limit our capacity to appreciate the natural world and its people. By sacrificing the temporal pleasure of pornography, we can live a life that can better appreciate the simple joys of the people and relationships around us.
10. Go to bed earlier - Changing just the first hour of your day changes the remaining 23, and the best way to change the first hour is to get a good night's sleep. In addition, going to bed earlier may surprise you with how it naturally benefits other areas of your life.
11. Give to a charity - Pick and donate to a cause you believe in. The act of giving can bring joy not only to yourself but to others as well. If you can spread that much joy by filling out a check, just imagine the joy you'll spread if you volunteer your time and talents.
12. Date your spouse - Take your spouse/partner on a date at least once a month. This can help you have fun, reconnect, and strengthen your union. It doesn't have to cost much, as plenty of low-cost or free date ideas exist.

These unique life resolutions/habits may not be mainstream, but they can be just as valuable in helping you live a life with full potential. 

Living Authentically

How to Break Free from Seeking Approval

Are you someone who constantly seeks approval from others? Do you need someone to push or tell you you can do it? If so, you're not alone. Many people struggle with the need for external validation, and it can be a challenging habit to break.

The need for approval can stem from various sources, including childhood experiences, cultural norms, and personal insecurities. In addition, it can manifest in different ways, such as constantly seeking validation from others, people pleasing, or avoiding disapproval at all costs.

While seeking approval can be beneficial in certain situations, such as building relationships or achieving career success, it can also be problematic when it becomes the sole motivator for our actions. If we constantly seek approval from others, we may lose touch with our values, principles, and goals. We may also become overwhelmed, overworked, and unable to refuse others' requests.

In this situation, taking a step back and evaluating why you seek approval is essential. Ask yourself questions like: What do I value? What keeps me awake at night? How do I prefer to spend my time? You can live a more fulfilling and authentic life by listening to what you genuinely want and aligning your actions with your values, principles, and goals.

Here are some tips for breaking the cycle of seeking approval:

First, be honest with yourself: When you take on a new commitment, evaluate whether you are doing it because it's right for you or because you want to gain approval and avoid disapproval.

Set boundaries: Learn to say no when a request doesn't align with your values or goals. Setting boundaries can be challenging, but it's essential for living a more authentic life.

Practice self-care: Make time for yourself and prioritize activities that bring joy and fulfilment. Self-care can help you reconnect with yourself and your values.

Focus on intrinsic motivation: Instead of seeking external validation, focus on intrinsic motivation. Set meaningful goals for yourself and work towards them because they align with your values and principles, not because you want someone else's approval.

Seek support: Breaking the cycle of seeking approval can be challenging, and it's okay to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist.

In conclusion, seeking approval from others can be a challenging habit to break. Still, it's essential for living a more authentic and fulfilling life. By reflecting on your values, setting boundaries, and focusing on intrinsic motivation, you can break the cycle of seeking approval and living a life aligned with your true self.

Orange Butterfly

"The orange butterfly is believed to carry the message that there is life after death and that death is but a transformation like that of the butterfly."

Grieving a loved one is the most challenging. Long ago, when I lost a baby and then a parent, I never thought I would choose to work in grief in the future. We lose our loved ones, uncles, aunts, cousins, friends or grandparents. Still, sometimes it doesn't hit that hard because we are not aware of the significance of that relationship. As a child, we have been told that they are in a good place, and we don't understand what a good place means and why they have to leave us and go to that good place. Long story short, I do not have a more profound emotional attachment with who passed earlier than the first death I remember, and it's always in my thoughts when my best friend lost her parent one after another.

I can see that emptiness in her eyes, her craving for that warmth, and her loneliness. I always try to be with her in the ups and downs of her life. But I can not fill that void of losing both parents at that tender age.

Time passed a little more, and I sailed through my life. Then the first whirlpool of my life was when I lost my baby in late pregnancy; it was a shock. After that, I could not express my feelings and was pushed to live everyday life with the same sentence. She is in a good place, and as a parent, I think, what !! A good place … why and how …

Finding in my thoughts what I have missed, how this happened etc. I still feel I missed that grieving part or suffering inside. And again, when I lost my father, I still grieved him even after 17 years. Some days it feels like I am healed and accepted it. There are some days when I think it doesn't happen, that loss is still in the denial phase, and then there are days and times to relive the story or just like it happened yesterday.

But now I work with grief every other day: a new loss, a pang of guilt, a wave of anger, either delayed grief or just happened a few weeks back. I stay with them in their pain and longing and listen to their stories and grief. I tell them they do not have to follow a to-do list provided by society or religion on how to grieve and what to do.

Just live in the moment, a day at a time. It's never too late or too soon in grief. I learned how to respect and live my relationships to the fullest; I may have some regrets, but still, so many moments to cherish. Grief is the price we pay for our love, and it will never dim down or go away. It stays there. We just build a life around it brick by brick every day.

Orange butterfly

Flying around the sun

Orange butterfly

Flying through the sky

Orange butterfly

Touching me softly

Dance with me

Float with the wind

Fly with the birds

Come to my side

Just for a moment

Touch me softly

Dance with me

Float with the wind

Fly with the birds

Just for a moment

Before you say goodbye

by Zahra

A poem about Grief and Bereavement expressing Loss and Death

Giving Advice is not Advisable

 As human beings, we are always ready to be helpful, telling around what to do or our personal stories about how we do something, and it turns out all right. So by sharing our experiences, we advise friends and family on every occasion. It's second nature for some people to tell others what to do and choose even a simple scarf or dress. Darling green is your colour. You must wear green when you want to choose purple as we feel like wearing purple and that green 'advises' fill the wardrobe with three different greens. Life is full of bits of Advice or reviews about 'which school', 'what diet' or where to go and 'what to eat. Earlier, this Advice came from parents, friends, or dear old aunts in the neighbourhood, but now it is everywhere on social media or online shopping reviews. All this controls what we think, what we like, and who we are.

I have one central theme in my training: a counsellor giving Advice is not ethical, "You are not there to give a solution; Your job is to be empathic and listen. You have to be genuine". The person sitting opposite the seat asks you 'what you think about it and what you must do. Pause and repeat, of course, in your head boundaries, ethics And then, sorry, I am not here to tell you what to do. What do you think about it? Someone and something constantly probes us as the therapist, pushing us sometimes to say something, but hardcore training makes it firm. All those long essays we write and all those books we read, our tutors and supervisors make every effort and peel that layer off from us, and we always say we are not here to tell you what to do.

On the other hand, I am on the other side of the therapist's thoughts. I was feeling stressed, and I called everyone, and they told me I must see a therapist. They are trained and help you. So my idea of therapy was for someone to give me a tailor-made solution or a pill, and then everything became rosy, and my therapist asked me what I thought about it.

No one ever asks me what I think. My parents told me, do not to do it, or my teacher, 'Why don't you do this in that way? Then society, this is the norm, and this is not.

Ok, let me think …

Why are my eyes getting teary? What's wrong with me. Why am I crying about it? It's simple; just someone first time asks me what I think about it. It's not a big deal.

Why is the room so quiet…

Why is my therapist not saying anything? Where is the clock? Is time up? Can I run without saying goodbye and never return?

But …

What about the solution I need. Who will help me …

Oh, it's me who has to help myself. Why did someone never tell me about it? Its simple answer is in me, which is what I think about my issues, not someone else. So I sipped some water, looked up and said I needed to slow down and guess what I wanted, then what someone else told me to do.

Therapist, you look so calm, as if you have discovered something. Would you like to talk about it?

You just told me you must slow down. What do you mean by it…

You are beginning to be compassionate towards yourself. We are almost approaching the end. Why don't you tell me what you think of the self-care routine so you feel less stressed?

by Zahra

Art of saying ‘NO.’

The main point of saying ‘No’ is to say ‘yes’ to something else. But how to say it frequently and gracefully. Usually, we avoid saying ‘No’ because of social awkwardness and pressure or say ‘yes’ to everything. So how can we make it easier to say ‘No’?

1- When people ask us to do something, we think saying ‘no’ will impact our relationship with them. It seems incorrect or pleasant, but we must remind ourselves not to deny the connection or person. It will help us to make the right decision with courage and compassion. Soon people will know that you do not over-commit.

2- Do not find fancy ways of saying ‘No’ and keep it simple and blunt. Like I would like to help you, but I’m already overcommitted.

3- Remember what is essential and what needs to be done first. Give value to your time and commitment, as no one can do everything simultaneously.

4 by saying no, the first short-term impact on relationships is the reaction of annoyance, disappointment, or anger, but you will get respect and professionalism in the long run. We must choose between being popular by saying yes all the time or being respected only when we can do it but saying no often.

5- Make saying no consistently and gracefully and make it your lifestyle. Do not hide your no in silence or pause it and think if another person is getting your unavailability; otherwise, be bolder and say it. Don’t use a soft no like using the ‘word but’.

6- Email/text is an excellent point to start saying no and using a planner or digital calendar to clearly view your available time.

7- Of course, we cannot say no on some occasions, and persons like a manager or depending on what someone is asking at that point take a pause and tell them you have rescheduled some things to put this in, and you might need to make some arrangements, and you will let them know once you do it.

8- Use humour where you can or offer an alternate.

Empty Your Head by Journaling Daily

You learned how heavy our mind’s workload is; thousands of thoughts run through our heads every hour. In our journey to build a happier brain, we must consciously generate more optimistic thoughts. But our minds are still in primitive age and inclined to think of negative reviews more than positive ones. So, what do we do about it? The solution is to create another brain out of our brain: a brain that does the ‘storage’ work on paper, where you can dump out whatever is going on in your head and make your head empty once again. This process is called journaling. Having a separate paper brain outside will empty your head and allow you to control your thinking process by directing your thoughts in the way you want. In fact, journaling is considered the most beneficial kind of writing “expressive writing”, often connected with journaling, is incredibly therapeutic. The study found that participants who wrote about traumatic, stressful, or emotional events were significantly less likely to get sick and were ultimately less seriously affected by trauma than their non-journaling counterparts. You can distance yourself from your thoughts and emotions if you consistently start seeing them on paper. Precisely, your conscious memory and RAM (just like a computer) should not be used to store the running thoughts; instead, they should be used to create new ideas.

Writing empties the conscious space so that much better work can be

undertaken by the mind, such as generating fresh ideas and thoughts.

Moreover, you can now see what’s going on more objectively. You can

distinguish if something is just a fearful, negative thought or if it is really

worth paying attention to.

Journaling also makes you more grateful and happier because you can see all the good things happening in your life now.

What should you write in your journal?

What one should cover in one’s journal is as follows:

What are you grateful for regarding your previous day?

What are your specific accomplishments?

What are your particular desired areas of improvement?

What are the top five things that you must do today to take your life

to the next level?

Journaling is a technique to bring happiness. Here is how it works:

Sit in a quiet place, and take twenty to thirty minutes to think about what you expect your life to be one, five, or ten years from now. Visualize a future for yourself in which everything has turned out the way that you’ve wanted. You have tried your best, worked hard, and achieved all your goals. Now write down what you imagine. This writing exercise, in a sense, puts your optimistic ‘muscles’ into practice. Even if thinking about the brightest future for yourself doesn’t come naturally at first, it may get there with time and training. Amazing things can come about as a result of writing. Also, researchers recommend a 20 minutes replay exercise. He says writing for 20 minutes about a positive experience is a GREAT way to boost your happiness. I’ve told you many approaches to journaling, as I didn’t want you to limit what has worked for me only. Everyone is different, so you may prefer a different technique to express your thoughts and emotions. This journaling exercise aims to empty your head and help you see your thoughts and feelings from afar. Again, ten minutes of daily journaling will start to enhance the level of your clarity and bring a smile to your face. You become more focused and action-oriented since you can see clearly on paper and identify what matters and is worth ignoring.

by Zahra

Inner Compass

  Navigating Life with Writing: How Journaling Can Help You Find Your Inner Compass

In the modern world, getting lost in the day-to-day chaos of life can be easy. However, it's essential to take time for self-reflection to explore our inner thoughts and feelings. Writing and Journaling are potent tools that help us stay connected to ourselves and our inner compass.

For centuries, writing has been used as a means of self-expression. From carving hieroglyphics into stone tablets to publishing online poetry, writing has allowed people to explore their emotions, experiences, and ideas. Journaling is a form of writing that allows individuals to track their thoughts and feelings over time.

We gain insight into our minds by writing down our thoughts and emotions. Writing can help us identify patterns in our behaviour, uncover hidden beliefs, and explore new ideas. It can act as a map that helps us navigate the terrain of our inner worlds.

Journaling is particularly effective as an inner compass. Individuals can track their moods, thoughts, and experiences by Journaling. It benefits those struggling with anxiety, depression, or other mental health issues. In addition, Journaling can help individuals identify triggers for their negative emotions and develop coping strategies.

In addition to its mental health benefits, Journaling can help individuals stay on track with their personal goals. By writing down their goals and tracking their progress, individuals can stay motivated and focused on what's important. In addition, Journaling can provide a space for individuals to reflect on their values and priorities, helping them stay aligned with their inner compass.

Writing and Journaling are powerful tools for self-discovery and personal growth. Whether through creative writing, Journaling, or simply jotting down our thoughts throughout the day, writing can help us stay connected to our inner compass and navigate life's journey with greater clarity and purpose. So it's time to start journaling and find your inner compass today.

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