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Optimism in the Storm
Giving Advice is not Advisable
As human beings, we are always ready to be helpful, telling around what to do or our personal stories about how we do something, and it turns out all right. So by sharing our experiences, we advise friends and family on every occasion. It's second nature for some people to tell others what to do and choose even a simple scarf or dress. Darling green is your colour. You must wear green when you want to choose purple as we feel like wearing purple and that green 'advises' fill the wardrobe with three different greens. Life is full of bits of Advice or reviews about 'which school', 'what diet' or where to go and 'what to eat. Earlier, this Advice came from parents, friends, or dear old aunts in the neighbourhood, but now it is everywhere on social media or online shopping reviews. All this controls what we think, what we like, and who we are.
The Path of Life's Sorrows
Art of saying ‘NO.’
1- When people ask us to do something, we think saying ‘no’ will impact our relationship with them. It seems incorrect or pleasant, but we must remind ourselves not to deny the connection or person. It will help us to make the right decision with courage and compassion. Soon people will know that you do not over-commit.
2- Do not find fancy ways of saying ‘No’ and keep it simple and blunt. Like I would like to help you, but I’m already overcommitted.
3- Remember what is essential and what needs to be done first. Give value to your time and commitment, as no one can do everything simultaneously.
4 by saying no, the first short-term impact on relationships is the reaction of annoyance, disappointment, or anger, but you will get respect and professionalism in the long run. We must choose between being popular by saying yes all the time or being respected only when we can do it but saying no often.
5- Make saying no consistently and gracefully and make it your lifestyle. Do not hide your no in silence or pause it and think if another person is getting your unavailability; otherwise, be bolder and say it. Don’t use a soft no like using the ‘word but’.
6- Email/text is an excellent point to start saying no and using a planner or digital calendar to clearly view your available time.
7- Of course, we cannot say no on some occasions, and persons like a manager or depending on what someone is asking at that point take a pause and tell them you have rescheduled some things to put this in, and you might need to make some arrangements, and you will let them know once you do it.
8- Use humour where you can or offer an alternate.
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